Stronger - but still confused

[Snow White]

I am not sure why I post on here- well I do know, I like the people. I should probably be banned cause I am a very poor DB'er. H texted on and off all day Saturday trying to find out if I was going out Saturday night. His best friend pulled in the driveway and I talked to him for a few minutes, first he heard(when I told him) that my H hasn't been at home for a week and he drives to work and lives across the street from the guy H is claiming to be living with who is another of his closest friends. H came home yesterday "to talk", no talking cleaned the garage, which was a major undertaking. Finally came inside stared into space, we will talk in awhile. I ended up starting an argument button pushing because I needed some response to the question of what the hell is going on. He admitted now that he has gone to ow;s house since she moved out from her boyfriend, but the story is only 2 times and didn't even take his shoes off. I flipped about trust and the fact that he constantly berates me for not trusting him and this is what he does. So he claims, that is why I don't tell you the truth because you act the same way every time. H stormed out and the story was well I was thinking of coming home but not now!

Sent me a text saying "I am all f'd up" not me him. I grabbed my daughter and went to Walmart and bought new locks. He called while I was there, and I told him what I was doing. Discussion on that, I can't do that ect. Explained he moved out voluntairily.

Later he sent me a text saying he had to work tues(his day with D always)and he could watch D wed and we could talk. I said don't worry about it. He asked watching D or talking. Both. So then the question about keeping D away from him. I advised no he watches her tues,i will not keep her away from him, wed my parents watch her, Wed is OW's day off, "D is my priority and the only thing I have left, I will never allow her to be in the presence of someone who destroyed her family." I know this is playing hardball, and some might think I am using my child, but I am not I sincerely do not want her around this person because I do not think she is stable (nor is my H at this point).

So then he calls, and is nicer, calmer, sorry, not sure what to say to me, he knows that it is wrong he went to her house. He is trying. He needs me to stop snooping and hunting. He wants the number of the Employee Assisstance Program at my work so he can call, maybe that can be our first step. He will come by after work to talk - tell him not to if there is nothing new to say.

I get a blocked call at 9:45 say hello a few times and the person hangs up. A few minutes later i get a call from H asking if I called his mom because she called demanding he call immediately. Said I had called early in the evening to see if she could watch D on tues, that is all.

He was all fired up this morning, you tell my mom when she gets there I am not 12, do not treat me like I am. Told him no, will not. When his mom showed up she told me that she had called, then went out looking for him - his car was not at the apartments he said he was staying at(told me previously he parks in the lot across the street(lie I am sure)) so she went to OW's house and no one answered. She told me that if H refuses to speak to his family(2 weeks since I told them and he has been in hiding) she will make him. She will give him a few days and then visit the OW's work to push his buttons. I talked to him after, did not tell him this part but did tell him that his mom had gone out looking for him and that he had better call her before he ended up really embarassed. He went off again, I am 36, they are acting like I am a child, why did you tell her where she lives. I advised I told your parents 2 weeks ago you have refused to contact them since, I cannot control what they do. If you keep saying you are 36 then act like it.