Sara... HUGS... I understand the lying aspect of this for you... and how it can have you constantly off balance. Might be time for you to get him out for your own well being. He's out of control and won't be able to start his own process of healing until he's forced to look painfully into the mirror and his empty wallet.

OWs will not put up with the same amount of crap you have... gain back some control now so that you can begin to negotiate with him to actually work on the marriage.

In the oddest way possible, even though H and I are separating this week... we've managed to negotiate a some good steps forward about "working on things".

And get the doc to up the SSRIs - I was where you were 2 weeks ago... you can't stay in that state of emotional distress, it'll wreck your health.

Abbey

T:22, M:20
H:55 Me:45
H-OW PA: N/07
OW Jan08
Bomb:Feb/08
S: Apr/08
Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11
Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess.
Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.