Rebuild trust, then friendship and maybe romance will blossom. Her Affair is something she is going to have to deal with, on her own. You can support it, when she decides to break free. What ever you do, do not contact the OW anymore for any reason that will be counter productive to your cause.
Also as crummy as it sounds, humble pie is on the menu, do not flirt or talk with women and do not be out late at bars. This will also sabotage your progress. Hang in there, and work hard on yourself.
Married:10 years D final 8/28/08 10 minutes is all it took Life goes on and DB was no small part in growing from the Divorce!
