Totally Lost after 23 years

[FaithfulH]

Sorry, one other thing. If you just tell your W that you are stopping MC, I can almost guarantee she will use that against you....at this point. So, how 'bout this...."Honey, I would like to put our MC on hold for a few weeks and I wanted to see if we could agree on that. I have been listening to the counselor and their are some things I need to do to work on me." Optional....whether you want to share any of those "things" with her. At this point, I would be more general than specific....."I have some goals I've set for myself".

BTW, regarding goals...my DB-Coach recommended that I set goals in these 5 areas:

Spiritual
Physical
Intellectual
Emotional
Social