H is Having Affair after all - Part 2

[Jen_Jam]

Eve you don't know for sure your H is still having the A, it's only based on what this friend has said. The A could be on/off, on/off, you just don't know.

What I'm saying is you can't base your actions on H's. Detach. Your H will do what he does, you have very little control over that.

It sounds to me like there is a lot of gossip surrounding H and OW. It's making them uncomfortable and defensive. I don't feel sorry for them, don't get me wrong, I'm just suggesting if you don't join in this gossip you will gain the higher ground and you will not be part of the pressure that H is facing. Please don't listen to friends - they mean well, but a simple "thank you, but I'm just concerned about the welfare of me and the kids right now" might well go a long way.