Man I loved your post!! Thank you thank you. I think you were dead on with so much of what you wrote & got from my posts. I am going to check out that other site & book. I just glanced at it and it looks interesting. It sounds like it really helped you out, so I can't wait to look at it more. I know if I boil it all down, I need to grab my nuts, be a man (the man I was) and prove to myself then her that I am the same guy, just got a little off track! Then pray that she will see all that, and be willing to come back to me. We had a great talk on Fri. We had to really get on the same page. See I thought we were going to separate to get perspective on ourselves then come back together & see if our M or R was going to be saved. Found out she is more like ready to D tomorrow, if $ & kids were not an issue. So I did give her my "blessing" to see others. Of course this was done to see if she would come clean about her actions. It didn't. I rather have her tell me what is going on then have to find out on my own, or have it be sneaky behind my back. So there is an article on the Home page of DB that I related to called: "While your spouce decides" I plan to do what that guy did and be her best friend and support her. I know it will be hard, but I think that will be the best approach for me. She still wants to get an appt that we can trade off staying at to increase the space & feel more indep. I am banking on the fact we can't afford it. Hopefully we will be forced to stay in the same house and just try to live as separate as possible. It looks like this: she leaves earlier for work, I get kids ready & take them to day care. Work myself, All meet up at the house for dinner & get kids ready for bed. I go to gym at night, or she does her thing. Or just try to be not with or around each other the rest of the night. Weekends are weird, one of us tries to be out all day on Sat, and the other on Sun. So far the kids, being so young, don't feel the impact of this. Our goal is to keep their lives as stable as possible. I know no matter what they will be effected by this mess, but trying to keep it minimal. So my priority is ME, W, M or R, Kids. I was really charged up after reading these posts, so Thanks again!
ME 33 W 37 Together 8 M: 5+ disconnected: 5 D: 2 D: 3
