I am pretty new as well and you ahve some great posters on here - I have some of the same ones and they really make you think and reflect on what you are doing.
Every time I think of the OM in my sitc, I tried the stop sign, didn't work. I just keep telling myself he is scum, one of the lowest a##holes on earth. He is a leech and a blood sucker taking advantage of other emotions. My OM is married with kids - what a jerk. Believe it or not, that helps me. Although I still cry, still wonder everytime she is late (even though mine says she doesn't see him, but talks to him and still loves him)what is going on.
My heart goes out to you, I saw a great think on detachment and what it really means. You can find my name and check out the post if you want. That is helping me.
M=46 W=47 M=24 (together 26) D21, S19 Bomb 3/16/08 OM 3/28/08 WAW moved out 5/16 Divorce final 10/09
