Why Can't I DB the right way??

[thegoodfight]

It is easy to get discourage, rebuilding trust is a long hard road especially if he is still in contact with her. I recommend you ask him to notify you when he is all done with talking to her. He chose you, he came home to you! In his mind although the thinking is wrong, he believes because you want him back you have forgiven him and completely trust him.

You don't and for good reason, let him set the schedule, trust he will be honest and let him know that if something seems strange you will question it. Also let him know you need some reassurance also and that it takes time to rebuild trust.

You will be okay if you keep your cool.

[Sugar and Spice]

Good advice GF. Its hard to keep cool, but if hes not done talking with OW, then he is not meeting you 1/2 way working on the marriage and that isn't going to help anything.

Stay strong and do it one day, one situation at a time.

[hurtmom]

Hey I hope you are having a better day and feeling good. Did you get your meds switched yet? Your Dr. probably told you but Lexapro takes 2-3 weeks before it will really start to help you (as do most AD) so make sure you give it enough time to work.

I feel your pain, and I know this is all so hard. I have a lot of trouble getting the same thoughts out of my head. I spend way to much time talking and thinking about what H is doing and I need to think about myself more. I NO it's very hard and I also am not a patient person. Hang in there, sounds like your H is trying it's just a much slower process than we would like it to be.

[water2moon]

hi HM, yes I am on prozac now..Doc said it would take about a week to feel better but I have not cried in days so I think this is progress..I take Xanax for the Anxiety and although the doctor says I can take it 3X a day I've taken it only once or twice a day..As for the OW still being in contact with H He is really showing me how one sided it really is..yesterday morning she spent over 4 hours sending him text after text, all said the same thing " I HATE YOU..WILL YOU HATE YOU TILL THE DAY I DIE" In caps just like that..over 80 texts in all..Now I hope he can
see just how crazy she is??? As far as changing his cell he explained she can still get the new one through his job..He's not responding from what I can see so I'm happy about that and he seems sincere about working on our marriage although to be honest it's not fast enough for me..I really miss being with him in every sense of the word and I don't think he's ready yet..But I'm busy GAL...Started studying for school, re-painting and redecorating D13's room and H just bought her a new bed yesterday..He's been great and now I want him to see that this is where he needs to be, I want our house to be his safe haven..He told me tonight he really sees a difference in me..Now if only I can get OW to back off my life would be almost normal again..I've mentioned going to the police but H feels bad( as he should) and told me to give it some more time that she has to stop soon..I hope so..