The high road always makes you feel better in the long run. To me it seems that your H overreacted. Let him deal with his anger and you deal with yours. Keep your chin up and be like a duck!
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09