He was actually pretty shocked that I packed his stuff. I was really nice to him and told him how I organized everything for him. He sincerely thanked me. Also, he gave in to my requests for immediate spending money.
Overall it went very well. I'm still upset, but i think I handled this is a very good db way. It's like you can't stop an alcoholic from drinking and I can't stop him from leaving. It really caught it by surprise that I "helped" him!
Now,I just have to get used to the situation. I know this will take a lot of time, esp since there is a ow in the picture, but as someone wise told me, he now has to experience the consequences of his own actions (not seeing his duaghter every day, the added expenses he will now have, etc). I think this is SO true, and my trying to "keep" in inthe house wasn't allowing him to face these things. they say in al-anon, you can't deny someone the dignity of their own bottom.
this week's goals:
1. No calling him, unless it relates to our child 2. No emailing, unless again relates to our daughter 3. work my ass off so I know i have money coming in 4. no giving him a hard time about anything at all.
question: He will now have Isabella on weekends. I don't want him near ow. from what he is saying he will be staying at a friend's house. but I have a feeling that he plans to spend weekends with ow and that means contact with my daughter who is only 5 and having a hard time already. HOW do I handle this?? My lawyer says he can petition the court so there is no contact with ow and my kid. what do you guys think? adding fuel to the fire??
