Feels like I am doing it all over again....

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Good job answering...that's exactly what we need to know.

I don't think I am being selfish and I don't think I am being unfai r to demand that she takes some responsibility for the well-being of our marriage. It should not all fall to me and right now it very much feels that way.

You're right. Now she is overrewarded for her bad behavior.
We're going to try to retrain her now.

Two things.

One

What are the things that you do that she wants most? What are the things that make her happy? What would affect her most if you stopped doing it?


Two

What are 2 or 3 small, baby steps would you like to get from her in the next 2 weeks? Something that would tell you you are moving in the right direction?