So sorry for you Nocode and lwb!!! I have noticed my H has been very nice lately. He was nice to me yesterday and today, (I finished the play today!) saying things like you'll do more plays with your friends there and stuff like that. He's been really responsible with the kids lately and everything! We're still separated, but I guess it's good. Hopefully your spouses will come out of their fogs too!
I do think mediation will not always work, and H and I will have some big issues like homeschooling (me in favor and him probably against) and that may change H into a less-nice guy when I am not 100% agreeing with him all the time! I agree with lwb I guess if mediation is not working, I wouldn't want to waste too much money on it. You probably have to have 2 somewhat agreeable people and your W doesn't sound like she would be very agreeable? I hope this all works out for you! Karen
I have noticed my H has been very nice lately. He was nice to me yesterday and today, (I finished the play today!) saying things like you'll do more plays with your friends there and stuff like that. He's been really responsible with the kids lately and everything! We're still separated, but I guess it's good. Hopefully your spouses will come out of their fogs too! 
