oh so complicated

[p4ulk]

i cant really give much advice as im still pursuing my WAW after her affair,she is living at her mothers with our son,5.
i trying to apply DB but keep screwing up...cant stop chasing her.
so advice?...it sounds to me like youre doing fine on your own,something we can all do its just so hard at the time.
life will go on regardless of our shock,pain,suffering etc
the second we realise that only WE can make ourselves happy and NOT our spouse is the day our life begins.
i say our because we are all in the same boat here,so many people feeling the same way,not knowing what to do,whare to go...
this is a great place...just reading posts of people in the same boat as you....you are not alone and you are not at fault.
it seems to me this is something missing in him...not you.
we all said our vows when we got married...i can stand tall,chin up and say ive lived by those vows.
the people who go against that are the ones at fault..i know you love him terribly...its so hard,i cant let go myself ,not just yet.
carry on what you are doing,be a better person,not for him but for YOU!
take care of yourself and your D and try to be positive,bold strong and patient.
got a quote here for the occassion -
some day this pain will be useful to you. - Ovid (43BC-17AD) [Publius Ovidius Naso] Roman Poet
everything happens for a reason,youre obviously a good person and deserve happiness...so make yourself happy...everything else will take care of itself
good luck x