In theory it would be a new marriage, where both folks had a better understanding of what it took to make something work. At least I know I'm learning lots of things I never thought about before.
The hardest thing about posting continuously is avoiding the feeling that I'm a victim. In a victim frame of mind, I'm powerless, everything is based on what "Kevin" does and how effects me. The more helpless I feel, the more I tend to listen to others.. which usually includes justification for lashing out. When that happens it usually hurts me in the long run, takes a toll on the kids and everything gets more unsettled because I'm reacting.
