Ping, sounds like things are going well. I think you are par for this course or even under!!! Your W coming and sitting by you is good. She could have sat at the other end of the bleachers and not even acknowledged you were there(which is what my H would have done!!haha) When I talked with my coach this week, she really emphasized the four phases we need to go thru and not to try to mix the phases. I'm not sure if you have read about them on the boards or not, as they are flying around here. I'm going to list them, just incase you're not familiar with them: 1. defuse negative emotions, work on this by giving eachother space and time, 2. friendship, how things were when you first started to date, no intimacy, lots of talking, hows your day, this will TRULY help to regain trust, 3. romance and dating, self explanitory and this is where MC would start 4. reconciliation. She told me I probably really set myself back months by trying to rush thru the steps in the beginning.
I think you are doing an awesome job...keep it up!! take care Christa
H-32 Me-29 T-10years M-4yr (10/04) Me- WAW 1/07 I filed for D 2/07 D put on hold 5/07 H re-files for D 9/08 WOW! trying MC 10/08
"Work like you don't need the money, dance like nobody is watching, love like you've never been hurt!"
or even under!!! Your W coming and sitting by you is good. She could have sat at the other end of the bleachers and not even acknowledged you were there(which is what my H would have done!!haha) When I talked with my coach this week, she really emphasized the four phases we need to go thru and not to try to mix the phases. I'm not sure if you have read about them on the boards or not, as they are flying around here. I'm going to list them, just incase you're not familiar with them: 1. defuse negative emotions, work on this by giving eachother space and time, 2. friendship, how things were when you first started to date, no intimacy, lots of talking, hows your day, this will TRULY help to regain trust, 3. romance and dating, self explanitory and this is where MC would start 4. reconciliation. She told me I probably really set myself back months by trying to rush thru the steps in the beginning.
