No, he was never ready to work on our marriage. Since he wasn't the one to end the affair in the first place, this all doesn't shock me. That doesn't help the hurt I am feeling. When I brought up MC, he did not want to go at all and was very sure about that (I already know what they are going to say), he wouldn't change his cell phone number and he now and then brings up the fact that as soon as he gets enough money, he will be moving out and getting his own place.

I wish we were at the place where I could bring that list to him and he was open to doing those things. He says that I treat him like his mother and he shouldn't have to check in with me. Treating him like his mother is one of my faults in our marriage, so I can see where he is coming from. He was supposed to have been home an hour ago. I don't know where he is. I am not going to call him.

I am scared that I am going to be left with no choice but to go to a lawyer to get him to leave. I am scared that it is going to nasty and any chance we have of getting back together would be ruined. I don't want to leave because H can't afford the house and I would stuck paying for my own place along with the house and couldn't afford that.

I don't really have enough proof (except for the roses receipt) for him to admit the affair is back on. I just know that it is.

Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08