Totally Lost after 23 years

[addie]

Hi CBK, try not to get into ANY R talks. If your W brings it up, just listen or validate by saying "I'm sorry you feel that way" and NOTHING else. You don't have to agree or even empathize with her at this point because you're still too emotional.
It WILL get better with time. You have to allow yourself to go through the grieving process. It's o.k to cry but do it when she's not around. Don't let her see a weak man, show her a strong, confident man. This is so very difficult to do but you must do this if you want to save your M.
It's great you went to church. Instead of coming home early, you could have gone for a drive, composed yourself and then gone home. W wouldn't have known there was anything wrong. Are there any other GAL activities you can do? Don't stay in the house. You said you don't have many friends where you're living. Go for a walk, to the gym, for a drive. Go watch a movie on your own, shoot some golf balls, anything to get your mind off your sitch.

I will suggest you read some of the advice from Sandi2. She was a WAW and has given some fabulous advice to others in a similar sitch as you. Do a search for her username and read her posts to others.
Good luck and keep posting.