H and I are separating at his request. I'm the one moving out... don't want to, but as of the last 2 days conversation... it's the only chance we have to salvage ... "anything" he says.
Wants to start back as friends and from there... we'll see how it goes. He really has no idea what "Friends" consists of, and how it's all going to work... one day at time... he says... one week at a time.
Sigh... I'm a week away from having to move out... this week is going to be frikin' dreadful. I could take ADs by the handful and I'm not sure it would help. All that said ... another date tonight, ... we're going to dinner and a movie tonight.
One thing that he also finally came clean on was that this separation, in his mind is because of how I treated HIM over the last 4 years. Revisionist history bug has sunk in for him... as he's forgotten the endless days I spent alone while he was on the golf course.
During one of our "moments"... he did say that we've "done well" so far as friends living in the same house,... knowing we're separating, (hell we've done more stuff together than most happy married couples)... but yet... he still wants to separate.
He's hell bent on this "friend" thing... problem I have with it is... the self fulfilling sitch that can create... ONLY friends. NOT good enough... I want my husband back.
Anyone wonder how much of this stuff we the LBS contend with,... has to do with chem imbalances in our spouses brains? I'm not talking necessarily of depression per say... but other stuff like a lack of pheromone production etc?
I still swear at times, the man has been upducted by aliens.
Abbey
T:22, M:20 H:55 Me:45 H-OW PA: N/07 OW Jan08 Bomb:Feb/08 S: Apr/08 Back together Ap1/09-Sept/11 Oct, 2011, uncertain future/H is a mess. Dec/11 - Doin'friend mode. Some days are better than others.
