I think we are in a rut

[MichelleLT]

It sounds like you have a good idea of what you need to say.

What you said about the anger fading - DON'T talk to him when you are worked up. It will be easy for him to dismiss your points as being emotionally based and hope that when you calm down you will change your mind.

That said, just call him up and say, let's get together in a couple days, we need to talk. Then you have a self-imposed deadline.