Now make a list that doesn't include one mention of your husband.
I had a couple of goal lists. One for DBing with my H and one without. I could refer back to the one with when I knew I was going to see him. I always had trouble biting my tongue.
1. I just packed ALL his clothes, toiletries, etc. (he's not taking furniture as he is moving into a furnished room). I put everything NEATLY in a corner in our dining room because we never use it (we have a large house) and our daughter never goes in there. So when he comes home tonight, I won't have to watch him do this. I packed all his stuff FOR ME! 2. I took a nap 3. started reading a book I was really looking forward to reading
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
thank you. I just got off the phone with my mother in law. I cried the second I got off. These people have been so much a part of my life, I can't believe this.
list for me:
1. look into going back to school 2. Work 9-5 - no excuses! Do the best job I can (I work from home) 3. go to the city (nyc) this weekend 4. go to at least 2 al-anon meetings this week 5. beging a blog (I've always wanted to do this). figure out cool topic. 6. Write ONE song, throw it up on you tube 7. Tell my manager what is going on and get publishing deal happening. 8. look into getting gigs again (there's tons of places to play upstate and of course, in the city)
Should say that for me, I am actually glad not to see my in laws. They always drove me nuts. I have not missed them, at all. I feel sad for those of you that do. It must be hard feeling that loss of extended family.
well, I did something else. I need immediate money for every day needs and h isn't being helpful. He will be mvoing out tomorrow and I know that the basic bills( mortgage, taxes, util.) will be paid, but I just need to know I have money for food and gas, etc. So I asked someone in town here and got a part time job in the office. I also have work I do from home (from my company I work for in NYC, where i'M FROM ), so I feel good that I took this step and at least know that I will have money for food and such without having to deal with h. I feel proud of myself that I did this.
I've also decided that I am going back to school. it's something I have wanted to finish for a long time and now is the kick in the butt I needed.
Maryangela, you should certainly feel very proud of yourself!
Glad you're feeling better today and have so many goals (great ones too).
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
h is coming home soon and as I said, I packed all his stuff (he doesn't know I did this ,but he'll soon see). I packed it neatly and it's all ready to go.
I feel so f'ing sad. He's really leaving. my life was so different 3 months ago. What I really resent is that he wants this "tied up" like NOW as in, "when are you filing, let's get on with this" and he wants this life with this "super girl" he's found. What he doesn't understand (or refuses to understand) is this is a profound change for me and I need TIME. I f'ing resent the hell out of him right now that he is rushing me.
I need to ask him for money tonight for weekly expenses for the next two weeks. any advise how I should approach this?
