Patience is key

[addie]

Hi everyone! I really appreciate the feedback!!!
So H decided to spend the night in our bed again. This time after he got into bed, I decided to initiate some affection by stroking his body. He almost immediately says "I don't want to hurt you". I think I misinterpreted what he said and I was a bit P.O. I said "If you don't want to hurt me then why are you here?" I missed most of what he said because he was mumbling and I didn't want to ask him to keep repeating himself. All I caught was that he was still confused and unsure about his job. He sensed that I was P.O. After a long while I said "I understand that you're still confused and I appreciate that you don't want to hurt me." WTF??? The previous night he was "actively" trying to have s*x. When I tried to initiate with some affection it scares him off!!!
This morning he got up, made breakfast for us, left for his place but said he would meet us at church.

I don't know what is going on with OW but I don't think there is any romance/ physical R going on. H has spent almost every weekend here for the last month and just about every evening. They see each other at work and still have some contact outside of work (both our cells are on one bill in my name) but very few calls. This is one reason I'm allowing him to spend the night. If I thought he was still involved romantically with OW I wouldn't be allowing him to stay over.