It would be nice if Forrest had a progression of "threads" like the rest of us but give him a break, it did not happen that way. I did ask him a lot of probing questions, not to attack him or challenge his credentials but to listen and learn from his experience because he seems to have a lot to offer and he made the effort to respond openly each time. I can also understand why his thread ended because I feel the same way right now. He simply gave up on his "sitch". But then things happened to turn around and I don't think it happened in a DB/DR bookish kind of way. He may have just got lucky. Then he travelled well beyond this point by putting in some real effort and did not feel like filling in the blanks on his own sitch but instead helping others.
I see his point about the big sign at the bottom of the page! This site is intended mainly to try to "Save Your Marriage". I've read a lot of high and mighty posts about being here mainly to become a "better you" and that saving the M is just "icing on the cake". But if I had to bet my last $, most of us are here because of the sign at the bottom of the page. Also, those who have followed his posts understand what I'm talking about.
As for me I have given up on my sitch too, but not with the expectation or hope for it to turn around at all. It's because nothing I've tried has "worked", I've given it enough time and I don't know what else to "try"; If Dbing = "doing what works" then either DBing hasn't worked for me or I have not DB'd - I'm on the fence taking a crap shoot.
Me-48, W-38 M14, D11, S7 W filed D 01/07 W had to move out 06/07 Current Thread
