Thank you for the responses. I didn't give him the letter but writing it helped me vent! \:\)

Instead I talked about how we were when we first got together, wasn't it nice, and that I would love to have that again. H agreed we should work together on that and so did I. He prefers morning to ML, but it takes him a long time to wake up. I am usually out of bed pretty quickly, so I have actually been missing some signals.

DQ - you are right, way to much information in the letter, so I picked one thing - ML.

Sara - you too are right, aznd I had tried the friendler approach before and I also had tried the lingerie catalogues (I now have a drawer full of lovely lingerie which is gathering dust \:\( But I also0 know one attracts more bees with honey than vinegar.

By me putting this all on my H is wrong, same as it is for him to ignore me. It really is something we need to work on together. During our chat though, I did say I was looking for little changes that could be sustained, rather than any grand gestures. Then we ML'd \:\) \:\) \:\)

So ... back to my old friend patience, and remembering that resentment and anger get me a big fat nothing. Thank you for the reminder \:\)

Bomb (ILYBINILWY, don't want to be married)Sept05
Seperated Sept/Oct 05
Oct 06 - H recomitted
July 11 - I am now a WAW.