rop, I know. Its so hard. OW in my sitch was such a predator. My H was her (at least) 3rd affair with a married man. Such bad news. H now admits what a bad parent she actually is, but back then, it was love and roses, and them living happily ever after with my 2 girls and her 2 girls (same age, same school, barf oh rama). She was B A D news, someone I would never want to influence my innocent ones. But...I could only stop so much. Could never 'prevent' it from happening, so I suppose I was set on making it as positive for the girls as possible.
Blecky to the OM in your sitch. What is wrong with people!!???