Jak, Matilda, and Piecing Friends, My W and I went dancing last night at a local R&B place--just the two of us instead of being part of a dance community. We had a great time.
Prior to going, my W worked with me on my basic steps that we're learning in class. She said that she was testing me to see if I'm being appreciative.
She still wants me to send the instructor an email or talk to her about how valuable and instrumental she's been to my dancing. Validation for this seems important to her. It seems like a small price to pay to repair the miscommunication we had in class last week.
In one sense, what happened is that I valued the instructor's feedback more than hers regarding a specific problem, and chose to ignore my W. She was hurt by this and acted-out in class. I now realize that she wants to be a dance mentor to me, and my appreciation of this is important to her.
I'll need to be attuned to this in class. When a WAS has been distant, and is beginning to reconnect it's easy to overlook their efforts. Hopefully, this recent conflict can be corrective for the R.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
