S.F., I haven't been on the boards for awhile, I was shocked to see this thread! I know how very hard you have worked to make this happen, and for him to just sneak out while you were gone and blame everything on you is the ultimate act of cowardace! You andI haven;t always agreed on everything, but I have always admired your dedication and hard work toward your marriage. With that being said, I think you really need to ask yourself some tough questions; Is it worth it? Your family is divided as a result of your H's actions and behavior. Continuing to work on saving your M could result in further division. Does he really want to be with you? I'm not trying to be mean, but he runs all the time, there has to be a reason for that. Snodderly pointed out that he is still dealing with his issues, and he may very well be, but with that being said, its been my experience that very few of these people ever come back to face the music, a few do, but most do not. S.F. I think you have gone way above and beyond with this, and I think most people on here will agree with that statement, I think your H believes that he can do whatever and still have his foot in the door. I am of the opinion that your need to slam it on his big toe! If he wants you, he needs to work for it, if he doesn't what's the point? Hang in there!!
