Sounds like you are doig a great job of detaching while still loving your wife.
Don't snoop, all it does is upset you and it doesn't accomplish anything, If the W wants to do something, she is going to do it.
Yes protect yourself, before you go to the lawyer, make sure you write down a list of questions you have, I told my W that I could care less about a D, if she wants out she is going to have to get an anulment (catholic divorce) first and then we can talk about legal D.
Trying to stay happy as my heart gets ripped out. Looking for love and affection (getting little or none). Waiting for the big earthquake to hit while I fight off the blues.
M45 W41 M10 years D9, D6, D6, S5 2 Dogs and 1 Cat OM confirmed 12/07 merry christmas to me PA confirmed 03/08 and still going ???
