Just updating. Feeling frustrated. I know I'm not saying anything new that gForce or KerryK or Hopeful or WCW or Starshyne or any of the others haven't already said a million times. But I still have to say it.
Here I am finally giving up. I'm dropping the rope, letting WAW know she is free to figure out her life, and as I start detaching, she starts contacting me more often. Wanting to know my opinion, asking what I'm doing, whatever - but she's making contact. And I'm now at the point where I'm not sure I want it. Honestly, if she asked to reconcile tomorrow, I don't know if I could say yes.
I don't think there's a question here, or need for feedback. I'm just making a realization for myself, and that realization is that I deserve better. Which really means seeking a R with someone new.
Confused, but, as GFI says, onward - lodo
This is right where I'm at lodo. Been thinking quite a bit lately and have come to quite a few realizations that put me in the same frame of mind as you. I'm done putting in the effort. My WW wants her "freedom", so be it. And it's just like life repeating itself. Her mom did the exact same thing and now is a lonely old woman who rarely see's her kids because all but one has moved away. See's her grandkids even less because her idea of love is BUY them stuff. Maybe WW can move in with MIL and they can be miserable together.
I guess I plan on detaching even more. If she wants to reconcile, she's going to have to be the one to do the work. I'm done. Sounds like you're in the same place as me. And it's not too bad of a place to be, is it?
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
