Piecing...Ostriching...Salvaging.. I don't know...

[Lanzo]

Hi Chris,

Welcome to piecing, I've been here since Feb and it's a lot quieter than the newcomers section, but being here shows that you have come a long way in your sitch.

I managed to catch the tailend of your thread in newcomers and when reading it I though I could just replace the name "PhD_ChrisD" with "Lanzo" and that would be my story. I've now just read your opening post in this section and you echo my feelings exactly. I have the same questions as you in my head with the exception on question 1 where my W has returned bringing a heightened appetite for sex courtesy of OM, and believe me that sucks just as bad as your W's lack of enthusiasm. (but hey at least we're getting some).

This week I made the mistake of suggesting to W that we still had issues to discuss and resolve, and that made her go semi alien on me and she was ready to head for the hills. In her mind she has moved from the A, doesn't even think about it, and wants us to move forward as if it never happened (WTF then about the last 12 months of hell). In fact my Db'ing and "acting as if" has been so good that W thought I was well past all of this.

I do well in the main putting it behind me, but then W will say or do something and I'll think something negative like, "you gave up the right to bawl me out when you started screwing around" but then I just have to let it drop again. I guess Chris you and I are looking for some kind of remorse, contrition or maybe even an apology from W but apparently we won't be getting it in the time frame we want (if ever). So we just have to move on, smile, grin a bear it, and piece together as best we can.

I just pray for us that time is the great healer everyone says it will be.

PS: I just read about your $20 penalty if you ever mention the A, hey if that was my sitch I'm sure I would be glad to spend the occasional few bucks just to get things out of my system.

Lanzo