lodo, been there done that. 10 years ago I was married with my 1st wife. We moved together in US from Europe, here she met a surfer and left with him. At least we didn't have any kids. I begged, pleaded, etc. but she didn't stop seeing OM. For my birthday she said she wanted to spend it with me, I said she could come with me to see a museum I wanted to visit. She said she wanted to spend my birthday with me BUT I should pick a different place. That was it I said bye and went to the museum. The day after I filed for divorce. I was done with her, I didn't want to see her again. Boy did she try to go back with me, then SHE was the one begging, but I was done with the R and I soon started dating my current (ex)wife. It felt very good to date somebody right away, my confidence went up and I must say was one of my happiest moments.... but... if my mind was clearer I would have seen the few odds things that made the 2 women very similar in many ways, it is creepy. Now I'm going through a divorce again, and this time is MUCH worse with 2 kids etc. This time, before dating again, I am going to be very sure of what I am doing.... instead I want to work a lot to have more friends.... for a change
