No, HER dating while telling you she doesn't want a divorce keeps her from having to face the risks. If she doesn't file a divorce, then the option of staying married is still quite feasible. If she waits to divorce to date then she really is going to have to face the whole shebang.
Me: 42/H: 37 T: 10 years/M: 8 D9, S8 Bomb: 7.23.07 Separated: 1.20.08 D Final 3.19.09 Affair started in '05, found out parts in 11/07. They married 11.26.09