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Women aren't attracted to "nice guys." They like guys with a bit of an edge, who also happen to be nice. There's a difference.

There's nothing that says you can't go to your wife and say you've changed your mind about exposing her affair, if she doesn't end it.

You shouldn't be turning to your wife to be YOUR support right now. A woman doesn't need another "needy" child around to buck up.

You sound like a great guy, CBK, but you need to realize that all the stuff your wife is saying (like "I've been happy for years, even before the affair") is classic wayward "script." It means nothing.

Look, there IS one "good" thing about going thru this, and that is we get to work on ourselves. Become stronger. If you can use this time to work on YOU, and learn to lovingly detach from her, she WILL notice the changes, I promise you.

Puppy

Last edited by sgctxok; 05/19/08 10:39 PM.