I know how you feel. Emotionally this will take a very long time to get over. I think you should spend more time posting and reading on here though so that you have a support system. Here we all support you because we are working towards the same goals.
A good idea is for no one to tell H he's making a mistake or about how you're handling it. It might seem like he doesn't care but you know he does and you could win a million bucks if you bet he was feeling guilty and depressed.
Stick around ok? You'll feel better that you did.
Jen
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
