Drowning after 23 years!

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All great advice - I am still on the waffle side of not telling right now, but that could change, especially after the kids come home next week. They are both in college and very mature. She is afraid that she would lose the kids if they found out - sometines I say, well, those are the consequences. But the kids will still love her as she is a great mom.

I have to say, it is so hard to be in the same house with her. I just went and hit a bucket of balls, ran a couple of errands and alls I wanted to do is get back home!


Puppy - thanks for the reply and you are right, I am being pushy, grabby, needy, and more.

I am working on the patience part of me. Have been doing yoga, gym, golf again after laying off it for a couple of years, and now staying away from her unless she comes to me to ask quesitons.

As one of the posters in a differnt string said - time to man up.

This is a long road, and even though I keep telling myself that, I go into a sprint mode! This is my new full time job.

The good news is that before I left for my errands, W drove up with one of her girlfriends, I was always pissed at her because she was always doing stuff with W. I was very jealous of her. During therapy, I told my W that I needed to apologize to her for making her uncomftable around me. Which I did, gave her friend a hug and then I drove away. Trying to step up to the plate.

Tonight is going to be a hard night. We are going to a couples dinner that we do once a month - they all know we are in a "strained" relationship, but not how strained... These are all really good friends and I need to watch what I say. Luckily, since the bomb dropped, I have pretty much quit drinking!