Drowning after 23 years!

[CBK]

Thanks H4U

I have been going back and forth - right now, I am holding it tight to my chest. I just have to watch my temper as I might say something in anger to somebody!

I do think last night was the first time she has seen him in a month - a lot of talk, hugging and kissing - possibly. I know she calls him as well. That doesn't make me feel good, but that isn't my choice. I also think he told her to get L last night - but it could have been another one of her friends. She wants the house - I told her that if she wants to be on her own, there was the door and I would help in every way possible, but the house isn't an option. She was pissed, I was pissed.

I don't know the person or his wife, just initials. I am pretty resourceful and could find out fairly easily, but right now don't want this info. I am trying to break my "snooping" habit, which is soooo hard. The hard one is that there are three envolopes in drawar which I think were dear john letters from about 6 months ago. They are addressed to me and the kids. Part of me wants to tell her to get them and put them away, the other part wants me to just grab them and hide them for me later. Not sure what option 2 would get me...

I just contacted my family lawyer and asked him what I should be doing to protect myself - I need to be smart and protect myself. I also just called and hired a DB coach and will start with her on Wednesday. That will be a long day. DB coach, IC, them MC, then a 5 hour drive to go pick up my kids from college!

Thanks again. Looking forward to working this out and hope we can be a support for each other.