Amy, was that subtle or what, betcha he still doesn't get it! OK Fish, you write " our marital situations are very VOLATILE. The emotions run a bit wild and you react moment to moment." You talk like this is some kind of law, but guess what, you didn't have to react moment to moment, you chose to! You let emotion lead you the whole way and that's why you are where you are right now (as much as you seem to like it). "When my W and I tried to reconcile she "seemed" sincere, but she was not. She made commitments that she refused to honor. Bottom line, she made my life hell." Again, that's why DBing is considered a rollercoaster ride because life doesn't follow 1,2,3, as we would like it to. There is a thing called creating a healthy distance which could have been an avenue to explore but you chose to grab a new partner instead. You couldn't wait a few lousy weeks to see how this worked its way out, you had to be gratified right now! Again Fish, if your new "chick" is so great than she'd wait for you to be ready, I mean really ready to try another R. I'm sorry that you just can't see what is coming your way. I hope for you and your D that we are all wrong here and that you do indeed get the life you want, I just don't see anything here to tell me it's gonna happen. Sorry!
