Chris, 1. You're going to have to accept for now where your sex life is at. The general wisdom on this forum, is to work on the friendship first, and then emotional and physical intimacy will naturally follow. Your W is communicating something to you with her sexual distance. Don't force the issue.
2. It's hollow because of your expectations. You thought that if you did X then you would have Y. You're disappointed and frustrated.
3. Mistrust, anger, resentment and frustration are coming back you say. Use this forum to journal and process what's going on there. Suppression is not the answer; that never works. Awareness, acceptance, and transformation are the path.
4. She will process the M with you when she's ready--not on your timeframe.
5. You have doubts about DB because you expected a certain outcome in a certain timeframe. You're frustrated because your M is still imperfect.
6.I'd like to think your W still cares about you, but is immersed in her own unhappiness. Continue to be kind to her, but watch those expectations.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
