Patience is key

[addie]

Well last night as I was typing the post above H walks in. I didn't know he was coming over. He said something about the wireless internet being down at his place and he needed to do some work. However, he was in no hurry to get to work. He sat on the couch with S who was watching TV. We all had a good laugh with the show that S was watching.
After S went to bed I sat down to watch the news with a cup of tea and made H some tea. I noticed a duffle bag in the doorway (H's overnight bag) but didn't mention it. After 11 I decided to go to bed. I gave H a hug (first time in a long time I've initiated) and said goodnight. He was sitting down but didn't really hug me back - I suppose he wasn't expecting me to hug him and was thrown off by it. I had no idea whether he was planning to stay or leave.
He was on the computer for a couple of hours and then got into bed without saying a word. I was half asleep and didn't say anything. Some time later he places his arm over me - I placed my arm over his and we slept like that for some time. It felt really good to share some affection. After a while he did the same thing again and we remained like that for some time. At one point during the night he got up to go to the bathroom, gets back into bed and then places the covers over his face and sleeps like that for a while. I really think he wanted to have s*x but wanted me to initiate which I didn't.
In the morning, I got up before him, made coffee for us. When he finally got up (very unusual because he's always an early riser), he asked how I was doing. I was upbeat - I think he was expecting me to be distant after last night. He went to work out in the exercise room and I joined him after a while.
He went into work for a couple of hours and asked if I wanted to do some more cooking in the afternoon. It's a miserable day here so I said sure.
I know I should set more boundaries but at the same time I'm happy he wants to be here. I really have NFC what is going on between us or how I should be acting. I know I'm also giving him mixed signals telling him I don't want him living here until some issues have been addressed and then I allow him to sleep over...