HIC, thanks for the post. I appreciate your input.

If it were just the two of us, it would be very different and I would probably much more of a committed DB'r. You must understand, she did not just WAW from me, she WAW'd from her children and her entire life. I do believe my situation is probably quite unique to this board.

Let me put out some positive insight. My wife has told me that she left them with me because she thinks I am the better parent and can provide for them emotionally as well as financially. That is very unselfish of her and I appreciate it. My wife and I get along very well, there is no fighting or any kind of negative interaction, even when we were together we did not have bad fights or say ugly things to each other. We had a very good and happy marriage for the most part.

My wife is going through her own personal issues that come with a lot of pain n her life. I would like to be patient but sometimes you have to be realistic too. She is happy on her own, does not miss the life she had and is starting to see OM. I do not believe that trying to change things about myself would help that situation change. I have taken my responsibility for some of what brought us here but it was ultimately her decision and her own personal problems. I hate divorce, I am a Christian and am a very positive person. People who really know me (not from a few posts on the internet) will tell you so.

I personally can not deal with the pain and I have to move on. If I thought that there was an ounce of hope in my wife changing, I would say so. But I have never seen her have the ability to admit she is wrong and her pride would never let her face what "she thinks" others think of her.

On a personal positive note. I have come to the decision that I am not at all interested in dating at this point and that is a big step for me. I want to learn how to be happy and satisfied as a single father and I am sure that will take some time and that will be my focus.

HIC and Christa, thanks for your word and your time. You will never know how much I appreciate it when you all respond to my posts.