Mike, Most lawyers in Tennessee will give you a one hour consult for free before you have to retain them. Call around and find one that does this. They will of course tell you how this is "going to happen and to protect yourself first". A load of crap,contrary to popular belief our lawyers only do what we allow them to.
My attorney understood clearly up front that she is to respect my wife and that she is not allowed to be a bulldog unless I tell her that is what I need her to be. It has helped with negotiations. It has also helped that I obtained a female attorney, consider it.
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Your advice calms me and makes me think I have a chance.
First off, thank you for the compliment. More importantly however, you do have a chance.You have a lot of solid signs from your wife and the two of you have shown the ability to speak calmly which is great.
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I feel if I could make peace with her mother, that would be a big step forward for me. I don't know how to go about doing that because her mother will not come to our house right now. Says I make her uncomfortable. Anybody have any suggestions on that.
I agree that the R with her mother will have to be better. However, you also dont want it to be "just to save your marriage". Look, think very clearly about her mom, what does the R that you want to have with her as her son in law? Part of mending that relationship may be that you need to own your part in its failure. You have some very clear opinions of your MIL and I am sure have made mistakes with her. Take ownership for those actions and at the same time let her know that you want to work through the issues between the two of you. It has to be for you though Mike, it cannot be for your wife.
