BE STILL, QUIET, PATIENT, AND DARK

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Trusting,
You may be finding out some things that will be most interesting. I would talk to him--if he is rude you can always end the conversation.

I got good advice from the DB C on in dilemma.

I told ILs that I am sorry to see them pulled in to the mess and sorry for their dilemma as of course they would want to support their son, but they could not simultaneously support me. Their support of OW (by welcoming her into their home) is not supporting me and is making it easier for H to D me. Therefore I would not be comfortable with going to dinner with them as it would just be sad and awkward to me.

Acknowledge their dilemma--but also your own feelings.

My FIL said re. OW "It is a matter of time"--meaning that OW will be on her way out at some point.