BE STILL, QUIET, PATIENT, AND DARK

[TRUSTING]

All is fairly quiet in my sitch.

We have had a couple of emails back and forth with a little flirting, but I think he got a little scared of his feelings.

I have only emailed him after he emailed me.

Other than that I have been fairly dark.

I sense a change in him. He has not been nasty, and I have not let him have the opportunity to be. I can only hope that he is looking within himself.

As for me I miss him, but for the most part am content. I keep myself busy and pray for him alot. I try to count my blessings despite this horrendous circumstance and hope that something wonderful will happen from it all.

I do have to admit I find it difficult to pray for the OW.

Take Care,

Trusting

[ACJ]

with a little flirting

Well that's got to be a BIG babystep. Well done.

I do have to admit I find it difficult to pray for the OW

You are not alone on that one. I even find it difficult to pray for my H right now

[TRUSTING]

UPDATE:

Ex left this weekend to visit an old friend of ours. One that would not approve of what he has been doing. He has not seen this person since his MLC. I do not believe OW went with him, but am not positive.

Ex's father asked my daughter if he could come over this Tuesday to pick her up for an outing. I have not spoken to him since ex's MLC. He was horrible to me when ex exposed his affair. Father in law blamed me for everything, even suggested that I "turn the other cheek" to ex's indiscretions. Father in law has a history of affairs also. I am not fond of him. Tuesday should be interesting. I have not decided if I will interact with him. I do believe his motive is to have some type of converstion with me.

[forward]

Trusting,
You may be finding out some things that will be most interesting. I would talk to him--if he is rude you can always end the conversation.

I got good advice from the DB C on in dilemma.

I told ILs that I am sorry to see them pulled in to the mess and sorry for their dilemma as of course they would want to support their son, but they could not simultaneously support me. Their support of OW (by welcoming her into their home) is not supporting me and is making it easier for H to D me. Therefore I would not be comfortable with going to dinner with them as it would just be sad and awkward to me.

Acknowledge their dilemma--but also your own feelings.

My FIL said re. OW "It is a matter of time"--meaning that OW will be on her way out at some point.

[TRUSTING]

Thanks Breton,

I appreciate the advice. I think I will talk with him. I have a feeling he has a lot to say regarding his son.

[forward]

Just make sure that you recognize his dilemma...then you can hold your boundaries.

I sensed real respect from ILs the day after that happened with me.

[cagzmom]

Trusting - it should be an inlightening experience.

I have talked with FIL - he too did what H has done -- and he tried to fix but it was not to happen. I wonder if their guilt sometimes fuels so much.

Who knows? I know this - you are moving forward. I respect you and again will say I hope to follow the footsteps that you have laid as an example.

[TRUSTING]

Thank You Cagz....

[cagzmom]

Hey Miss T I noticed something did little one turn into a 3 year old??!!

I read how you are praying for your h - but having a hard time with praying for ow. And I am with you on that. I am actually praying (not every day but sometimes) that God would help me come to a place of forgiveness for her - cause I have none.


Wonder where we will be a year from now?

[TRUSTING]

I think we will both be very happy one year from now.

OW will have aged dramatically from all the crap our H's have put them through.

They will have severe bags under their eyes and lost all their hair.

Their boobs will have sagged down to the ground....