Originally Posted By: Evie
I find i'm turning in on myself and just want to get in from work, get my pyjamas on and sleep..

This is probably the healthiest thing for you to do in the short term - think of your current stressors as having the same impact as getting slammed with the flu or some other nasty virus or injury. Your body and your mind need to rest to heal.

Originally Posted By: Evie
H wrote another email to d1 in France 2 weeks ago (she only told me this week), . . .I think basically he was trying to justify himself and the A. She said she thinks he is a pr*t and didn't respond. She won't let me read it, she said it upset her and a lot of the content was patronising and inappropriate and would make me angry.

Good for D! His last "fatherly" email was certainly all of those things and best ignored. Who needs all of that negative energy?

Originally Posted By: 25yearsmlc
you are luckier than most women in the world, and in my darkest moments, knowing that kept me grateful that--

We can walk about shopping, or drive to a church of our choice, without a male chaperone, our children are healthy, we have real shelter, we have food today and there will be food in the working refrig tomorrow, no one is shooting at us, beating us, keeping us from working or voting b/c we are women, there is no drought and no one is demanding for us to convert to their religion, while holding a knife at our throats. THIS makes us "luckier" (blessed abundantly) than 95% of women in the world.

I was glad to be reminded of this. Perspective is everything. There is always someone who has it worse. I've been anxious today - noticed it while I was driving in the car listening to an audio recording of "Reading Lolita in Tehran". As I was noticing my anxiety, which I assumed was due to my sitch and I was trying to identify my thoughts so that I could stop them, I realized what I was listening to and thought that the tales of war, executions, etc might be the source of my dread. . . .


me: 47
H: 48
he has 2 grown sons
M 1995(my 1st, his 3rd)
hit iceberg 6/07
S 9/26/07
before
now