Jak, Matilda, and Piecing Friends, I did not dance Friday night. Our usual Friday dance venue will be discontinuing its Latin night DJ and switching to karaoke. It will have Latin nights on Saturdays, so the plan is to switch to Saturdays.
I chose not to accompany my W to a dance outing. I thought there was too much potential for another difficult evening. I chose to let things settle for an evening. I did take her car in for maintenance as the air bags are not operational.
I sent my W a response to her email, stating that I felt badly for how the class turned-out. I reminded her that class can be stressful for me if I'm not understanding something. I reminded her that I am grateful for her help and value her as a practice partner, and hope that she will continue practicing with me and continue the classes.
We'll see what her response is. I'm going to try and stay clear of whose fault is whose type discussions. I'll keep my opinions to myself regarding how I think she contributed to the evening's outcome. I'm not there to be her therapist.
I'm hearing that she wants validation for her efforts as my practice partner. She deserves that. I probably don't show enough verbal appreciation for her help. Anything beyond that are her issues--her relationship with the teacher and other classmates.
She may not get everything she wants out of this. I'll keep trying to redirect her away from a blaming discussion to a let's get back on track one.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
