Thanks for the reply and I look forward to hearing from you.
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Well to be more specific initially she asked me to help out around the house more and to do more with the kids. This was ohh about 5 years ago. I complied. In this day and age I do far more around the house (dishes, cleaning, laundry etc etc.) than she does and I spend more time with the kids. She used to get mad that I would come home and get right on the computer...now that is her. She gets home from work, I have supper on the table, we eat and then she goes to the computer to look at her facebook page and shop online.
I supported her for 6 years while she got her degree and now that she has a job she pretty much goes about like we did before she had a job, but now she spends money on herself.
Then there is our sex life. In the start of our relationship sex was good. Fun and spontaneous and often. Then when we got married it started to slack off. She then told me she was not comfortable having sex with me, and it made her skin crawl. I tried to be understanding and for 3 years sex tappered off to almost nothing. Then I found out she was having an affair with a guy. Took her back.
Now I feel like all the daily grind things in our marriage fall to me to complete with no rewards or any input from her. She is coasting along. She told me her job and the kids would ALWAYS be more important to her than me and I need to get used to it. The kids are so importanat to her that she has not seen them in 3 days and has not come home in that time.
I try to be there for her for anything I can. I help her when she asks, I get her things when she is just as capable of gettig them as I. I do things that I don't want to do to make her happy...I am pretty much her lap dog..and I am tired of getting kicked. I know I am not making myself all that clear...I am bad at typing out my feeling but good at fealing them if that makes sense. I don't think I am being selfish and I don't think I am being unfai r to demand that she takes some responsibility for the well-being of our marriage. It should not all fall to me and right now it very much feels that way.
Thanks and I hope that helps to answer your question...if not let me know and I will try again =D
