If it were me (and I did go thru this exact same thing with my WW), I would respond:
"I'm sorry you had to hear that. I didn't tell her anything, but I suppose this won't be the first time there'll be consequences like this -- people talk."
Yes Puppy!! H was furious I set the record straight last week with his family (he lied and told me he told them...) and I said about the same thing. He is ignoring his calls and lectures...
Just got off the phone with aunt dd, hour and a half conversation. I called to ask that even thought she now knew the scoop that we were not sharing it with the whole neighborhood so could she please keep it to herself. So she went into what she discussed with H. On top of telling him he was ruining his life, fell for this girl's line ect she added a few made up things like she heard this girl has ruined other marriages and likes to go around breaking them up. No wonder H is asking what I said to his parents since he knows his aunt does not know anything about this girl.
She is really uptight about it all and said that if H does actually leave for this girl she will be going and confronting her and making her life hell for ruining our family, she will not make this easy for her. Aunt DD was cheated on herself and lost her first marriage to it. I think she is a little gung ho since this is not her marriage but we'll see where it goes.
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
When I told my MIL and my Dad that H was actually having an A, he asked me later "What did you tell them?" and I told him that I told them the truth. He actually asked me what the truth was so I told him that I told them both that H had an OW and had left me and our kids to pursue that A.
He wasn't pleased, but as I sweetly pointed out, that is the truth and as hurt and emabarrassed as I am about it, I have nothing to hide.
Thats the bad thing about this, they never think anyone will find out and it can remain their guilty, dirty little secret. You reap what you sew...
(((Neecy))). I hope it gets better for you soon.
As for the peace factor when they leave, its hard, but you don't have to live with waiting for the other shoe to drop all of the time and establish a little bit of calm and sanity for yourself and DD.
M:39 H:39 K:S14;D8 T:22yr M:15yrs S:12/28/07 EA/PA 3/14/08 OW preg 11/17/08 born 12/12/08 his ~~~~~~~ Never allow someone to be your priority while allowing yourself to be their option
H watched D today only contact was the coffee exchange in the morning and the text re: his aunt's lecture. He took her to school I got her off the bus. I get home and his underwear and socks are in my laundry basket, what is that???
Me~34 H~38 D6.5
EA/PA-DEC.07
Moved out~Apr.13,08 Sep. Papers~Dec.7,08 No contact order ~Dec.9,08 and again October 13, 2009
That's messed up Neecy. What ever you do, DO NOT DO HIS LAUNDRY! Next time you talk to him I would tell him that he can take his laundry home (where ever that is) with him as you'll not be doing HIS laundry.
Hope4us
Me - 49, W 49 S22 & S18 Dday 9/4/07 W claims NC 4/7/08 8/29/09 - Divorce Busted. Lots to work through, but we're going to make it.
H watched D today only contact was the coffee exchange in the morning and the text re: his aunt's lecture. He took her to school I got her off the bus. I get home and his underwear and socks are in my laundry basket, what is that???
If it were me (and I did go thru this exact same thing with my WW), I would respond:
"I'm sorry you had to hear that. I didn't tell her anything, but I suppose this won't be the first time there'll be consequences like this -- people talk."
perfect
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001
