It's funny.... if it's possible, I think I may have been possibly just a touch TOO centered and independent and unswayable in my emotions. The whole boundary thing was really a core value... I felt like for me to give that up for the wrong reason would mean I was betraying myself. So it wasn't until the bombs, which shook me to the core, that I was able to reexamine that.
T - you are a bit of a mystery to me! Its a bit hard to imagine what you are like in person, but on this board you come across as the most lovely, sensitive, warm, caring person who wants to spread love, but then sometimes you write things that suggest you dont think you were giving enough to your R?!? And I have trouble imgaining that if you were so centered and independent that you ended up on a DB board, trying to save your relationship.
Maybe you feel like you were centered and independent pre-bomb, but after the bomb you realised how much you wanted BF in your life?!?! I dont know. I guess I'm thinking that maybe you are confusing being controlling with being independent and centered?!? Does that make sense?
What have you attributed to your part in the breakdown of your relationship?
Anyway so so so so so so so excited about the positives of your phone-call! Yay! You did fantastic, and you got such a great response!
