Totally Lost after 23 years

[CBK]

Well, just going to journal a bit. W got home about 9 tonight, her event ended at 8... I was downstairs when she walked in. We had small talk, asked how her event went, she talked for a few minutes and then asked what I did today. Left it to the basics, worked, home, gym and she just kind of shut up, so I went upstairs. I was dying to ask what she has been doing, but I know that isn't productive. I need to give her the space, I am trying to only talk about the day, back off, do the DBing. I want her to open up about her day so I can listen and ask questions about her - not the event. She will let me in when she does. My mood swings are vicous right now, but trying to control and keep my emotions in check.

So here I am, upstairs watching TV and her downstairs on her computer. Baby steps, so hard when you thing the other person has no desire to get back with you. But so many success stories. My wife seems like she has her feet dug deep into the sand. I guess I have to do one grain at a time.