I would imagine that with time when the hurt starts to go away the view that you have of the situation changes. You are living without him at his choice. There is nothing you can do about it and you just move on when you see that he won't change. Doesn't mean you love him any less or any more. He made his choice and you are learning to change, learning to accept the new role you have in life. The friends routine doesn't work so well when you were more than friends in the past. Being nice works, communicating from time to time is nice but friends and what not just doesn't seem to put things in the proper place. The only reason I do anything with my x-wife is because we share the kids otherwise I wouldn't know where she lived, and still have no idea where she works. Some things I just don't need to know. So for now it sounds like you two are headed down two different paths. I hope at some point down this path you find peace knowing you did all that you could to save a marriage and can move forward. While still caring for him he made his choice and he has to live with it unless he changes his mind which would be nice but he doesn't seem to be gravitating in that direction. As for me and the lady I am/was dating we are at the fork in the road and she is working on a decision. Sucks when you are not part of the decision making and along for the ride. Have a good day SEEK, it does get better......
