Its hard but we didnt make this decision. We were left out. All we can do is pick up the pieces and keep moving forward. If you have close family and friends you are very lucky. All I have is my son, my mom (who never quite recovered from her divorce), my ex's family (who still like me but love her) and a few friends at church who helped me through this. It stinks. But we all recover....when we are ready to. Pray every time the sad hits. Pray every time the memories (good and bad) flood in. Pray when the anger and resentment take over. Pray for her. Pray on every thing that hurts. Its all we can do.
Take it one day at a time. Give yourself at least a month to grieve. I was lucky, in a sad way, that she began this process 5 years ago. Looking back I see how blind I was. But....it prepared me for the growth that was to come.
Remember....you will heal. You will recover. You will be happy again. Over time the the bad days give way to the neutral days. Those days give way to the good days. And before you know it you go from all bad with the occasional good to mostly good with the occasional bad (and a few days where you just dont care about it anymore).
Just take it one day at a time.
Take care, Bill
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubb...rue#Post1230087 Me 35 w 42 4 sk 12-21 our s10 m10 t14 '02 ILUBNILWY 12/24/05 pa 02/07 pa separated 1/07-3/07 asked 4 D 3/07
